This week, I felt I had reached a crossroad. I wasn’t sure which way to turn and I felt like I was standing in the middle of a road less travelled, with no understanding of what was the right way to go. I let the minds of other people derail me. I got stuck in a position where I wasn’t sure if the goals I had set for myself were the right goals to have set in the first place.
We all have bad days where we struggle to get out of a rut, wondering what to do next or wondering what priorities we should focus on. It’s important to not let the thoughts of others get the better of you. Here are a few reasons why it’s important to be your biggest cheerleader even when the going gets tough.
Only YOU know where you are trying to get to.
We all have goals but of course there are tiny goals that need to be met in order to achieve the bigger ones. So unless you give a detailed picture of how you plan to reach them, most people won’t have a clue what vision it is you have for your life. As a self-managed artist, it’s all about the bigger picture and being my own cheerleader helps me stay focused on my plans even when they don’t look like they are the right thing to do to other people. Trust your gut. Pray about it.
2. You are a work in progress
Challenges and struggles are necessary for growth. They are necessary to withstand much bigger pressures in the future. I see the benefits of being molded and re-shaped over and over again with every setback I face and the only way to move forward is to remind myself of what I’m working towards. Having the role of being my own cheerleader forces me to shake off negativity a lot quicker.
3. You should be your biggest priority
Everybody is too busy worrying about their own life and really has no time to dwell on someone else’s unless it adds value to theirs. That’s just the hard truth. By putting yourself on a pedestal, you stand a better chance of incentivizing others to cheer themselves on and eventually encourage you in the process for being their inspiration.
4. Money can never buy passion
Being a self-managed artist has made this journey tough but also very rewarding. You get to a point where you realize that whoever you want on your team or as a manager will have to be just as passionate about what you’re doing as you are. However, hiring them implies that they are allowed to treat it just as a job incentivized by money. At the end of the day, It’s up to you to really make that happen.
5. You will eventually never want to give up
This point is only valid once you learn the advantages of believing in yourself consistently. The hope is that you will get so far on your journey that you wouldn’t want to turn back or give up. Cheering yourself on when no one else will gives you extra fuel to keep pushing forward and prove all the naysayers wrong.
6. You can never be everyone’s cup of tea
There will always be people that aren’t so keen on what you have to offer and they will try to bring you down with their doubts as well. It is important to be discerning about the people, the minds and the hearts that surround you but knowing that you can’t please everyone around you anyway takes a little bit of the pressure off. If you believe in yourself, it would be a lot harder for the words of haters to get under your skin. Don’t let random chatter ruin all the goals you’ve already set for yourself. It should make you stronger.
7. It makes you want to improve
Ever see cheerleaders that stand on the sidelines of ball games? They are constantly cheering. They cheer to celebrate, their cheer to motivate and they also cheer to encourage a player when he/she fails. Being your own cheerleader gives you the license to push past your own fear in order to get better. We are so exposed to a culture of comparison and a lot of people will push any hint of imperfection in your face but the thing is to use it to boost your desire to keep working at it. Self-management has helped me to appreciate the importance of embracing ‘right timing’ and the idea that effective preparation will eventually lead to a greater reward.
8. You can demand a greater reward in the long run
Knowing your talent, believing in it and nurturing it will eventually lead you to the greatest heights. What I’ve learned is that any any smart creative should be building a career that lasts a long time and that will leave an incredible legacy. Once you reach a certain level, you are able to demand higher prices for your services but that starts with believing that you actually can from the beginning.
9. If you believe, others will believe too
I am always amazed at how the greatest performers manage to reel us in with their own love of their craft. You watch people like Michael Jackson enjoying himself on stage and it has a way of pulling you in. If you are fanatical about your goals, your achievements, your talent, your craft – along the way, it causes a chain reaction and it draws people towards you.
Get in the habit of reminding yourself what it is you are trying to achieve and stay creatively fueled so that you can do what you need to get done until you get there. It is working for me.
Till next time!