I once told a life coach my desire to be a ‘non-sex selling’ artist and he thought for about 60 seconds and then looked at me straight in the eye and said “You will never be”. Shock consumed me. I was so set on the idea that I could sell my music in a non-sexualized way and still have a large audience. After a few seconds I plucked up the courage to ask why. He said “For as long as you keep thinking about the negative aspect of the journey and keep battling to NOT be something, the act of constantly pushing against it will push you towards it”. I’ll never forget that and from that day on I changed my mantra. I started saying what I WILL be as opposed to what I WON’T be.

I believe embracing sexuality is different from selling sex. That should go without saying but a lot of people get the two confused. Does the world have to “see music” through an over-exposure of boobs and bums before they make a decision to listen? I don’t think so. Music should be about music. Yes, the industry is saturated and as an artist you need to more or less announce your music with a digital foghorn for people to know you exist but why must sex be the only way to get the numbers?

“Sex Sells”! We’ve heard that a million times. We get it. Can we move on?

If there’s one thing I know for sure about being a creative in any type of industry, judging and comparing yourself to other people’s endeavors is probably the most ineffective and counter productive thing you will ever do. However, I do look at the women in the industry and I do wish that there was a little bit more creativity in the way we all strive for success. I wish this because maybe it might be easier for other upcoming female artists to aspire to different methods but also be heard when they choose these other methods. There’s a space for it but it’s not big enough.

I don’t want to believe that because sex sells, that should be the only way to achieve a certain type or level of greatness.

The question of whether artists should be responsible for the message they put out to the rest of the world is always a tricky subject. We all have our reasons for putting out various messages to our followers. Should we be conscious of how it affects their minds and hearts? I choose to be. Should our role as women be only to entice and conjure lust? There are levels to it.

Oprah asks:

“How will you use the energy of your personality to serve that which is your soul’s calling”?

She says “Your legacy is every life that you touch”.

I believe a fully-clothed female form is powerful and it can turn any head in its direction especially when it is carried well, with grace and poise.  Adele is always a good example because a). She is a mega superstar and b). She leaves pretty much everything to the imagination. But that’s just one mega superstar out of a million potential ones. I hope to see many more in our lifetime breaking barriers and records.


“How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our heroes and she-roes!” – Maya Angelou

Today, on International Women’s Day I celebrate with my March Spotify playlist – “SHE-ROES”. It includes carefully chosen songs of some powerful women (including myself ;)) who I am influenced by and who make great music.


K xx